Thousands of children are behaving badly in homes and school but adults who allow children’s bad behaviour to continue unchecked means these children can’t achieve their social or academic potential.

These children will gain few or no qualifications and often turn to criminal activity, drugs or other behaviours that prevents them achieving a fulfilling and rewarding life…  What a terrible future lies ahead for a badly behaving child – it’s a dire time waiting for them!

Adults seek advice is sought for children behaving badly and they commonly believed there’s something wrong with them! So these children are diagnosed with a behaviour condition and get pumped full of prescription drugs that are supposed to change their behaviour. It generally doesn’t work – the behaviour gets worse and nothing changes until adults adopt behaviour management strategies that actually work!

What do you need to do then?

Well, quite simply, if you don’t change the way you deal with problem behaviour you won’t achieve the results you want. Doing more of the same will achieve nothing -  a change of technique is essential…

So, how long do you have to make changes for?  Simple – for as long as needed until the child has matured sufficiently emotionally to take control of their own behaviour – probably until they’re grown up in fact.

Quite often adults change their behaviour and the child’s behaviour improves – great.  But then, the behaviour starts to slip and the old, unacceptable behaviour starts to re-emerge…

So, what’s gone wrong?

That’s simple to answer… The behaviour just isn’t being managed as well as it was so the child’s stopped behaving as well as they were…  Adult complacency has set in, they’re being less vigilant and their attitude has relaxed.  The consistency isn’t as good as it should be and it’s all become too lax…

This can’t be allowed to happen.

Just imagine if you did the same when driving – you”re driving along quite happily with everything happening as you want it to.  But then you stop steering and controlling the car and you’d end up in a ditch. The car simply finds its own route because you’ve stopped doing what you should be doing…  So you’ll end up somewhere you don’t want to be.

Adults have to be in control of children’s behaviour and for this to happen they have to be the ones in the driving seat!

There’s no doubt that children know instinctively that adults should be in charge of them and quickly respond to confident and effective behaviour management techniques.  Children need routine and to what’s expected of them.  When these needs are met they can be guided to achieve well in school and at home by adults they trust implicitly.

But adults must beware because children will quickly take over if they realise the adults don’t have control and basically don’t know how to manage behaviour properly!   If the adults don’t take control the children soon will… And that can only lead to disaster!

This is an important message…

To achieve the best behaviour from children adults must consistently use effective strategies to deal with their behaviour.  Then they have to keep on using them.

It’s not difficult to learn to do this. It’s surprisingly quick and easy to confidently and effectively deal with children’s behaviour at home or in school.

And the result?  Happy children who are achieving well and growing up to be confident and secure and are able to manage socially and cope well in their world…

Anything else? Oh yes… Your own stress levels will fall, your work or home environment will improve. A good result all round!

Want to be able to manage kids’ behaviour better but don’t know how?

Get your copy of my detailed information in Behaviour Bible and you’ll be well on your way…  Click the link and off you go…

Thanks for reading and bye for now.  Liz Marsden @ Behaviour Bible.

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